Humans are very complex beings. The Lifestyle encompasses many different levels of play and types of relationships from swinging to exhibitionism and many more. Polyamory is a love relationship that can cross into many levels of the Lifestyle. Polyamorists can be male, female, bi, straight, gay or swingers, exhibitionists, voyeurs, naturists etc.
Polyamory means "loving more than one". This love is primarily emotional, not sexual, but this love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof, according to the desires and agreements of the individuals or groups involved.
"Polyamorous" is also used as a descriptive term by people who are open to more than one emotional relationship even if they are not currently involved in more than one.
Polyamory in it's most basic sense is responsible, honest non-monogamy, as opposed to what society commonly calls "cheating". In a polyamorous relationship, the partners involved all know about one another, and are consenting. The major elements in most polyamorous relationships are: honesty, openness, and plenty of communication.
Polyamorists believe that the addition of a new partner does not detract from the love given to the first partner, nor does it in anyway imply that the first partner is lacking in any way. Much time and effort is spent in a polyamorous relationship to assure that everyone involved is comfortable, secure, and that all their needs are met.
Polyamory has a great deal to do with your personal feelings and emotions. Most lifestyle couples have one emotional bond to their primary partner and experiment in the lifestyle for the excitement of the sport. A polyamorous person may or may not experiment in the lifestyle, but are open to multiple emotional bonds with more than one life partner. Since we are dealing with feelings and emotions, there are literally thousands of different combinations than can bond people together in Polyamory.
One Poly flag from the internet.
A red stripe to represent love and passion: a purple stripe to
represent the spiritual and visionary nature of the poly people: a blue stripe to represent the openness and honesty in poly relationships. A black circle, to represent the unity of the poly people, and the "solidarity with those who, though they are open and honest with all participants of their relationships, must hide those relationships from the outside world due to societal pressures". A gold ring to represent the "marriage" between loving partners: the color gold representing "the value that poly people place on the emotional attachment
to others, be the relationship friendly or romantic in nature, as opposed to merely primarily physical relationships." In the center of the flag is an Infinity Heart, to represent the infinite capacity for love in a poly relationship.
Polyamory is being called the New Relationship Paradigm.
Many people are questioning the long-standing idea that love must be limited to a single individual. Is it possible to love more than one person successfully?
Many people are asking this question, and some are pleasantly surprised to find that it is viable.
This is not to say that polyamory will work for everyone, but there are many people in the world who are simply not molded for a monogamous lifestyle. The members of that small group of people are beginning to reach out to one another, and seek support, friendship, and love. In the polyamorous community you will find a variety of people and relationships, all with one thing in common: an agreement that non-monogamy is natural and acceptable, if practiced in an open and honest way.
Are you polyamorous?
Well, we can't answer that question for you, only you can do that, but perhaps as you continue your research, and learn more about what polyamory means, how polyamory is practiced, and even communicate with other polyamorists, you will find that answer within yourself.