Dangers On The Internet|
he internet has opened up the swinging lifestyle in a big way over the last 5 years alone! Along with any new method of meeting couples, there are people you have to be careful of meeting up with. Most of the problems on the internet are dealing with lies or misinformation provided by another person or couple.
It is great to meet many new singles or couples on the internet, but take measures to play safe! Meet new people at adult clubs or neutral locations such as a restaurant or public place. Most couples who get banned from a lifestyle club will resort to meeting people through the net or adult friend finder etc. Predators will also use the net to lure unsuspecting people into their hidden agendas. If new playmates refuse to meet you at a lifestyle club, chances are they have been banned from this club or they have a hidden adenda that you should be concerned about.
We still have several banned couples and singles from our club that are causing other couples a great deal of trouble and discomfort. We here about some of these couples every month! We do not publish the names of these banned couples, because of legal problems with our word against theirs etc., but we will help our members avoid these banned couples. If you are an active member of our club and attend our events, we will provide assistance if you are unsure about meeting a new couple or partner. If you are considering meeting a new couple and do not know them, we will inform you if they have been banned from our clubs. Most swing clubs will offer this assistance to help you avoid dangerous situations, but only if you are a known member of their club. Some banned couples are very aggressive or have restraining orders against them to name a few.
I only drink one beer a night!
What people tell you on the internet and what takes place in real life can be quite a different matter. Get to know people first if you wish to meet people over the internet. Meet in a social club and see their deportment and manners in a public place first.
I have a very big cock!
I have an average size body, or I have a very big cock, or I can perform for a very long time. What people think or say about themselves, might be true in their eyes, but totally different to you. Seeing people perform at a club is proof positive what they look like and what equipment they truly own and know how to operate. Don't get fooled by what people say online. Many married men try to pass themselves off as single or with a consenting partner, which in reality might be their girlfriend, mistress or even an escort or prostitute. Some people will also send you pics that are very old or not even themselves.
We have personally seen men come into other clubs with prostitutes or escorts who constantly watch the clock while their employer for the evening tries to find his way into other ladies panties. Clubs do their best to keep out this kind of couple. It is very rare, but does happen.
Checking out the Stories!
It is very important to check out all the stories before taking the plunge. Many people are very disappointed to find out that things were not as advertised on the net. Be honest with people on the internet. Take time to feel comfortable and safe. Never jump into a situation on short notice, even if you are both horny little devils. Predators know that new couples are eager to try out a sexual encounter as soon as possible. If a new couple are too eager for you to get together with them, take this as a warning! Couples who are experienced swingers will take time to meet you and will be willing to go at the pace of the slowest partner.
Always arrange to meet a new couple at an adult club or a public place, your safety is very important! Never meet a new couple at a hotel or motel for the first meeting, no matter what they tell you about wanting privacy or people at a club or public place might know them. There is always safety in numbers.
Can't cum on the phone, I'm all tied up right now!
People are all into different things. Make sure you have similar interests in all levels of sexual play. There are a few people out there that love telling lies to get an unsuspecting partner or couple to meet with them for their own agenda.
If someone says that they are members of a certain club, don't hesitate to check it out. There are even a few couples that are not members of our club and tell other couples that they are active members in our club. All information at clubs is kept strictly confidential, but if a couple misrepresents themselves as being members and you ask a club about the couple, most clubs will be quick to let you know that the couple are not members or that they are barred from the club etc.
It is important that you do become members of an adult club for helpful tips and information like this. Your safety in swinging is very important to the owners of clubs and should be paramount to you. Some couples are very aggressive and don't know how to take no for an answer, or they are more into S&M than actual swinging. Take your time and play safe! Becoming a member in good standing of a lifestyle club will come with the privelages of keeping you safe from predators and banned couples to name a few.
If you do not know a couple very well and they request a quick get together or seem pushy to get things going A.S.A.P., do not take them up on this invitation! Couples who are well adjusted to the lifestyle and are well liked by many other couples will never have a reason to push you and your partner, they will be comfortable giving you all the time you need. Trust your feelings, if anything does not feel right, JUST SAY NO! Remember, you do not have to give a reason. It is actually impolite to ask this question in the lifestyle. If a couple asks you why?, they have just indicated to you that they are very new to the lifestyle or a pushy couple.
On-Line Clubs can be fun or a Danger!
There are many on-line clubs that advertise themselves as swingers or lifestyle clubs. Many of them are very legitimate and are helping curious couples meet and talk on-line about the lifestyle. Many singles however have found this an excellent way to get a group of singles and couples to meet with them at private parties arranged by them.
Singles have a difficult time at best getting into lifestyle clubs. The majority of these singles are males who are unable to find a willing female partner to swing with or are cheating on their married partner.
Some of these single males will attempt to start swing clubs for couples and select singles. They will advertise earnestly that they are truly interested in helping couples get together, but at the same time helping secure their own agenda to get sexually active in the mix of things.
If you go to a pizza restaurant, you hope that the owner knows how to cook pizza! When attending any swing club, your comfort level and enjoyment will be best served by a person or couple who have a great deal of first hand experience in the lifestyle. Most people love to try a restaurant if it is referred by other patrons or friends. Don't be shy to do your own investigation and get referrals before you attend or play at any new club or private party. Experienced singles or couples will have numerous references to give you. If you are not sure of a new club, or the club owner(s) seem pushy, DON'T GO!!!!